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There are only two mistakes within the search of truth and love. Not ever starting and or not going all the way.
Hence, as someone told me long ago never start anything one cannot finish. This idea should apply to most.
It's best to focus on the goodness in people and that is what I hope to find. If we only focus on the bad points of ourselves and others that leaves little room for anything good.
So far I am not finding that goodness because so many show little interest in communicating. How is anyone to know how wonderful they say of themselves if they choose not to communicate?
The reality is no matter what anyone says of themselves good or bad the truth of anyone and everyone comes out in the wash in time.
I consider myself studious but, never really learning anything. Observant but never really seeing things clearly. Its hard to see and feel how people think behind a profile.
If nobody communicates their needs and wants with a realistic outlook we can't complain if we can't find a friend. If people place age and country specs to limit communication please don't bother posting likes or favorites if you have no intention of corresponding. Unfortunately, human nature dictates we tend to attract the very qualities we don't like in ourselves always finding the nuances and faults in others.
Hence, always trying to change people to suit our needs.
Ultimately, while we waste our energy trying to change people we learn the only thing that needed changing was the fool we see in the looking glass.
Maybe its time to just accept people as they are not what they have to be for us.
Many can post their wishlist and be overly selective of the quality of person they seek but, do consider those very qualities one seeks in another could be what is missing or they do not see it in themselves.
People may complain about a wall being proposed to block out undesirables but, tend to not see the walls they already have built against the love they seek.
More About My Match
Regarding seeking a match I think by following the natural order of things people will find each other. Only minds and hearts truly join if they find something in common. Creating an image of an ideal person is like creating an idol. They can't love you in the quality you offer them nor give you what you don't already have.
In keeping things simple for the masses here, a mind and heart is like a parachute they work best when open.
I know most women seek kindness gentleness compassion understanding and power to rule the world somewhat. However, if they don't have compassion kindness or any redeeming qualities themselves they won't find it in others. People need to be realistic in their approach. Real love and power is to show compassion, vulnerability and humility when appropriate. Most people have more power within them than they realize to love or hate. The choice for either rests within.