Lasagna: I'm torn between speaking my mind to a person and just say nothing.Recently, in a moment of anger, someone told me what was on their mind. It wasn't pleasant for me and I was hurt by their words. I haven't heard from that person since that day. I have tried to contact them but to no avail. I don't think they gave any thought to how badly their words would have an affect on me.
Not sure how it could be taken by that person.
Do you think one should speak with total honesty even when the consecuence of that would be the end of all communication with that person?
Serious replies only, thank you.
Someone in my family never filters anything she says and has said some hurtful things to me. I always let it go. Mainly because I don't like to argue with anyone but more so because if I said what I was thinking the consequence would be worse than what they said. So I pay the price and live with it.
Retaliation is only good for the moment. When you think about what you did you might be regretful.
In the forums when someone goes out of their way to insult me I take it with a grain of salt. It doesn't bother me because I don't know the poster personally.
I don't think you always need to say what you are thinking. Put those thoughts in a file cabinet in the back of your brain and let it stay there until the desire to speak up fades away.
Mon Jun 29, 2020 10:38 AM CST