WELL, IT FINALLY HAPPENED TO ME…….I Knew it was only a matter of time. And, it did NOT feel GOOD…………..Now, what did you think I was talking about. Ya know we can’t use Porn here or we’ll be in serious trouble.
What happened to me to cause me to write my first Blog? I just received my first nasty comment. NOW I know how it REALLY makes the rest of you feel….AND, it wasn’t even all that nasty .
After so much commotion on the Blogs and Forums regarding the posting of photos on our profiles, I finally bought a camera, found a friend to take pics for me, had my son teach me how to download them onto the computer, save ‘em, and then upload them into my Profile. I did all that, and was sooo very proud of my accomplishments. The pics aren’t really so bad, either. After all, I’m not a young chick…and I’m not slender, or petite, or….oh well, I feel a second Blog coming on about THAT subject.
I knew the pics were there….and I really wasn’t expecting them to be important enough to receive any feedback… ( I was just happy to no longer be thought of as someone too fat to want to be seen.) .When, lo and behold, while logging in the other day, I discovered that I had an Email message from, oh dear, I can’t tell ya, can I…
Well, “ it” shall go nameless…because “it” really doesn’t make a difference. The message was not a comment on a forum or Blog, which surprised me. Why privately try to humiliate me? That doesn’t make sense. “It” doesn’t even know me.
Well, I suppose you want to know what this is all about. The message was short and sweet? “Why not…………………………a girdle”. Actually, it made me laugh. It was clearly sent just to be annoying. Now, more importantly, what did I do.
First, I looked up the profile. I recognized the name but had never spoken to the person. The profile was pretty much as I expected…..not particularly impressive…to me, anyway.. Then I set out to read each and every Blog posted by this person. Well, THAT was a SMART thing to do. I found a habit of lack of respect, improper use of the English language, deliberate jabs and digs at people, for reasons known only to that poster, and possibly a psychiatrist or two.
Now I had to decide whether or not to answer it…and if so, what to say. And, that’s the whole motivation for my first Blog.
I have not as yet answered it, but I have played around with many scenarios. The first feeling was to “get even”. But, when I gave it some thought, I wondered why. I certainly didn’t want to lower myself to “its” level. Then, the lightbulb came on in my brain…HUMOR…that’s much easier than anger. Always in my mind was that the commentor has the RIGHT to comment. And then, I decided to put the incident to good use….and thus…this Blog. I’m proud of myself, once again.
My thought process, although maybe it should have been centered around starting another diet, was focusing on how I handle what life presents me with. Soooo, I came up with the words for my reply………….
“Nope, can’t do that………….I try to have something for everybody….. and that includes those who get their enjoyment from un-necessary rude remarks”. I guess I have succeeded.”
He IS a poster on this site….Ooops, I slipped….now you know it’s a guy! Well, you probably guessed that already.
The moral of this whole blog?….Maybe to let you all see that the old lady is really no different from the rest of you young uns….I have the same thoughts, feelings…BUT, maybe, just MAYBE, time has taught me to step back from something, take a good look, and treat it in a way that is constructive…..see…my First Blog.! (I still have to work on this totally ignoring it, option. Not yet ready for THAT.)
But, I’m seriously thinking that this is the only reply he’ll receive.