48, Williamston, Michigan
I have only this to say to my Arty.....You’re stuck with me......DEAL WITH IT!!!!! Hello JS!
Hello Mimi...Ah-haaaa.....hostage situation.
The good thing about it is primarily security, especially emotional. When I say "you belong to me" I mean that I got your back, I will support you, and give you love and will always share my positive energy, care and nurturing to you ; Your romantic and s*xual attention are mine alone.This is supposed to be meant in a selfless intentiom to give rather than to receive. After all, love is supposed to be selfless.
That's a bit of a tricky question Johny and not so easy to answer The way I see it, if you feel owned you will recognise more disadvantage compared to if you feel your with the one you belong with.... advantage is all you can see. Sometimes I think that sense is stronger than love
MC,What you describe, is the beautiful side to "belonging" to somebody...when both people are in it for selfless ends. However, I wonder if society is as selfless as it once was. Thank you for sharing...in what you describe, it would be an advantage.
CW...I hear what you are saying. If you feel owned and they are beating you like a dog, that would not be to much of an advantage. Basically...that sound like a one way street where one is taking more than the other. Like MC says...and I agree with her when it comes to relationships, if you get into one...a sense of selflessness would need to become a part of it. However, if you listen to messaging today...I am starting to feel that message of not compromising is the fad of the year. Of course in relationships, compromising is necessary. I would think anyway. ....sorry if I got off subject a bit. :)Thank you for sharing.
instead of pros and cons which are best or worse case scenarios, how aboutTogether you both design a flowchart that identifies the issues and choices involved in this belonging and share your ideasFor example ...IF _ _ _ THEN _ _ _ _ Could any couple initiate an "understanding",prior to belonging, with honest expectations between them.If would identify specific life choices needed for having the plan go successfully towards mutual satisfaction.Just an option for weighing those anticipated burdens you would both share.
* it, not ifI find knowing a person before you enter into sharing your future with them makes the future a bit more stable- if the planning stage goes well.You can never know what the future will bring butit can be bonding to discuss some inevitablechanges and be on the same page beforehand.
It would probably be bonding to go through the good and the bad if you have built -in ways to ease each others' minds.Know ahead of time what their seriousdiscomforts are and how well they know their own coping mechanisms.
Hello Ash..I agree with what you say.I just think we as a society are going down a whole new path, a path does not tolerate much any more...therefore, being with somebody (or belonging to somebody) is going to suffer as a consequence of this "my way or the highway" mentality. I think anyway.
Being in a relationship isn't about me owning him or him owning me..I belong to me.
If only soceity is as noble as before...
Kinda where I think society is today Merc. The idea of two people sharing their lives unconditionally with each other today is becoming something of old.
MC....I think it is still out there but it is becoming more rare. I wonder how society moves forward if it were a mentality of me against the world.
I can't imagine. All I know is it will be worse.
It seems as time goes by you are right Chelli. Hopefully that is not all we are left with is despair...in many cases, we are the makers of our future. If society continues to be sold on a negative message, I think that is the path we are doomed to take.
However Chelli...I will say...there are little tidbits I see in the news around here that are challenging the negative aspects of the norm as it existed. Perhaps we are in a change phase and what comes out is more beauty than what we once known. I was recently told...we need to keep positive thoughts and energy...and I agree with that sound advice. However, if we can explore...say for example...the current state of relationships, maybe we can discover some hidden darkness and hidden light.
You can see in the media there are more references to like-minded people seeking belonging through their ideals.For instance these names that are not politically motivated: your crew or tribe.Same goes for neighborhoods banding together.I still see potential for "lovers", and other acts of selflessness that closeknit communities promote.
The more sharing and caring that is promoted in your surroundings the less likely there will be internal darkness. healthier too.
Hello Ash,Thank you for sharing. I am curious, you say the more caring and sharing promoted, the less there will be. How do you think that would play out...for what reason do you suspect.