60, Adelaide, South Australia Australia
Wrinkly bottoms up mate............
Jenny, I wouldn't have it any other way, you cheeky girl.
Wrinkey ~ Compassion is stronger, it feels better, not always easy, infact it is darned hard to forgive, not to hate, dislike intensely. Compassion would cure all the world's ills.
I love you Gg but i would place companionship slightly a-head of compassion. I can feel compassionate about something on another continent only to realise I either do not care enough to get off my backside to do anything about it or, no that's it.Companionship is flesh on flesh and that can only be felt in person. The problem with that is getting two lazy backsides off the chair long enough to get some flesh on flesh motivation. I do so hope that wasn't too harsh or too rude for you Gg? I do so love our little infrequent interludes. W.
Wrinkly ~ My backside would be willing to move towards some physical contact as it's been a while now. I agree, skin on skin and laughter, fun, things in common but being loved and hugged or just hugged and showing affection is terrific. Alas Wrinkly , Covid has put paid to all of that. Anything I loved in lived has always been either sinful or fattening for me... now it's bloody dangerous !!!
Yep, hate is less a sign of weakness, than of our traumas, usually when very young, and never dealt with appropriately. So it is very harmful, for most of us, as I should know. Rarely, some of us variously are rid of it, with time and experience, etc.. Prison can help. The uncontrolled drink, not really so much.Both harmful to others in our daily interactions. But mostly to ourselves. These strong emotions rent free space in our heads, for decades, and seem to effect not only our thinking (as in forgetting out trains of thought!), but important bodily systems as well.The good news is that these systems seem to repair once we get back into the driver's seat. Lots of ways to keep the immune and other important organ systems from giving up on us. Mastering anger based emotions isn't the worst place to begin. Just sayin'.
Vierk ~ Compassion cures many ills. Greed, cruelty, what's going on to mother earth at the moment and on an on.Everyone has anger in them. Some of us more than others. My anger comes up when I feel somebody is taunting me, or abusing me verbally and I have noticed those who are in the 'caring professions' are quite adept at it to on here. So nobody is without sin. If so cast the first stone. Therapy is just money spent and ending up your own a** .
wrinkly ~ When I've been in love and making love, and feeling loved and accepted, my anger has calmed and I think I am a nicer person. All this self distancing and mask wearing is not conductive to meeting a nice person and having a relationship so maybe a lot of people affected by this new 'normal' way of life are a little irritable anyway.
merest mention of it’s reality sends hate to the pisser. Where it squirts all over the floor.I still cannot remember what I was going to say after the first three words. Fukcitt, it’ll c*m to me sooner or latter.While Jenny and GG are very supportive in general about not hating. Have you taken it a step further towards your readers understanding that you need companionship moreso than compassion -to what purpose do those words have significance to a future partner: c*m and pissing your floor.(Other than you have mentioned you are lazy.)It is almost a fetish.Is it? As well as your bio about being a lesbian.I AM not a prude but the attitude towards women may be cumming off as dominant and vulgar.In that regard V is similar.Except that he equates his superiority and virility with the unnecessary descriptions of his dog's p*nis and frequent condescensions and generalizations of women. You two are both well tolerated by certain older women.The younger ones are somewhat oblivious intentionally.(we have to assume V does not speak to his own daughters in the manner he does here).Rarely do young women ever escape these types of lewd references. Their naivete can be feigned in person if it is role play you are virtue signalling.It is 5 a.m. and work obligations call.
As V stated, perhaps there is a childhood matter unresolved that was s*xually traumatic.
Apologies I must go.
Ash ~ There is often childhood s*xual abuse involved. you are correct. As for older women [that's me at least in age, I am one year from 70 but don't feel it in my head and am told don't look it but still a 69 year old , older woman, I have not found Vierk to be rude or condescending or vulgar to me personally, or Wrinkly. Just saying.I do get what you are saying, about young women and the different attitude. I don't taken any sleaze from men, or offense lightly but I have noted that many younger women have lost some dignity in their quest for equality. It does nothing for womanhood. Take care .
Right on, Ash, methinks. s*xual traumata for sure, but often other types. and neglect with verbal cruelty, often top the list. As I should well know. Selective, manipulative praise, and fake, VERY fake, signs of love. Yikes!And sure GG. One often hurts the one one loves. Which can be extended to whom one counsels, no?. But it's important not to kill the hope of others so in need of competent help, which of course need not come from professionals. Sadly, over time I've learned how few are optimal matches between treater and treated. And often, who would know, or tell, anyway? A very important element in the effectiveness of a therapist, or many others, is life experience, and groundedness. Training of various sorts can help. But two other things may enter in here, in my opinion and experience.. The ability to carefully find someone potentially good in the first place.And after a few meetings, the ability (the best will make a careful referral), to be willing to keep looking. But this doesn't mean throwing in the towel for the wrong reasons.The art is long indeed.
Vierk ~ Very true. I have come across some very highly priced and highly recommended Therapists who just gave out not one jot of empathy, but platitudes and this nodding 'I get you ' sort of looks but the body language was cold . Having studied Therapy and having been to therapists some if not most are in need of therapy themselves. I know you don't have to be well to be of great help to others but there is a coldness in some, a lack of real understanding other than book learning and the whole process is cosmetic and sanitised. Another man whom I went to had huge problems around the issue I was discussing and it seemed to affect him more.I rest my case, and possibly yours.
You must be receiving some hot and heavy DMs that is kept in secret because the language this blog refers to is what the rest of us women publically receive for " general consumption". My comments had nothing to do with victimized females, rather Wrinkly and V's comparable level of crudeness and appraisal of all women.Interesting to me was men this age submit for this information for prospective partners as well.( patiently waiting)Granted some are non-plussed at any age and others may have a higher bar set even for intiating mail or connecting directly on a blog.Well done GG is you are willing to take all "cumers" with loving open arms.That is an attribute I lack, whether in my younger years or now.I have not been abused so maybe it is a secret code or less offensive in certain regards both general banter or if intended to groom their women. I have read that water seeks it's own level so I trust that when I feel emmersed in that glow of love it will less likely be turned on by preludes of tart, hottie, bimbo, dog d*ck or c*m, pissing the floor followed by love yous. Totally common in some circles as I have now learnt. To each their own history of partnering lessons, healing and higher love or lower love(s).Rarely am I shocked on CS by men.But they are by and large the farthest thing from what I have ever encountered in my real life.I think I must enjoy being sheltered.The rare c*ck do crow frequently around here to the genuine affection of you fine feathered chicks.
Wrinkly ~ My backside would be willing to move towards some physical contact as it's been a while now.
Is there anything specific you can add that will help me tell them apart? W. (Scars? warts? big breasts?)It was Harbal that responded and perchance it might serve your purpose here on this blog as well to ask V.
AI 1984 has always been generous about helping me understand cultural differences, I think I will ask her opinion as well.
"Me I'm old and a bloke but the young girls must miss the physical attention.Six feet distant, most men miss standing over the bowl. W." Physical attention becomes an imposition after what age?